Monday, March 21, 2011

Gotcha Day!

Woke up with butterflies in my tummy this morning. It was funny, but it felt like that first day back in November when Jeremy and I were going to meet Anya for the first time. Don't know why! I guess it was because I was going to discover a whole new world of Anya--out of that little room. And maybe because I was a little bit sad that her caregivers would have to say goodbye to her.

Our driver picked us up at 9:15, then we went and picked up our coordinator.

First stop: Vanya's baby house. I had to wait in the car while Katrina went in to rescue her boy.  It took about 45 minutes, then they were out!  Here's Mommy and Vanya.  Don't they look great?


Next stop: Anya's place.
Katrina and Vanya stayed out in the van with the driver while Elena and I went in. First, we went in to the social director's office for a minute so I could sign something saying I was taking her out. 

Then we were off to her groupa.

I wanted to videotape it, but my cell phone/camera was on "freeze" mode and I couldn't figure out how to unfreeze it. BUMMER!

Oh, my gosh she was so cute.  When she saw me coming down the hall, her face lit up and she started out the door immediately. They must have explained to her what I was coming for.  She grabbed my hand and pulled me toward the door.  

Wait--gotta get dressed first, baby girl. So here was the interesting part. I brought some 3T and 4T jeans because I didn't know which size she was.  First I tried the 3T's.  Nope, could hardly get them past her thighs.
So I grabbed the 4T's and pulled them on.  I could barely get those babies snapped shut!  She is short and chubbo.  I don't think she'll be wearing jeans unless I get 5's and cut them shorter.  Don't ask me how an orphan who eats a strict diet can possibly be overweight. Inactivity maybe? I know it's common for DS, so who knows?  They say her thyroid has been checked and it's normal.  We'll have to do that test over when we get home, I think.  

Anyway, the other thing I couldn't get on were her boots!  Her feet are wide and flat!  Her caregiver helped me pull as hard as we could to get them on.  We're going to have to take a walk around the corner to the mall and find this girl some wide shoes. :)

OK, all dressed and bundled to Eastern European caregiver standards. 

One last picture with Anya's caregiver. She got a little teary as we were leaving. How can anyone not become attached to these kids?  


Time to go!


These two pictures tell the story perfectly about how excited Anya was to fly the coup.  When we got outside the orphanage, I asked our coordinator if she would take a picture of Anya and I.  Well, Anya had one thing on her mind, and that was to go get in that "machina" (car) because we were GOING! If we stopped, that meant we might change our mind or something. So she wouldn't stand there for me. No way!  She squirmed and wiggled until I finally gave up. Not even a hint of  a good picture to commemorate our monumental day. Boo hoo.

The whole ride home, Vahnya and Anya were perfectly content.  They just sat there taking it all in. Anya kept pointing to things and gasping, like it was soo cool.  She was crackin' me up.

When we finally reached our apartment, they happily came in with us. When we opened the door, they both started running around, checking everything out, giggling, and chasing each other.

We are going to have our work cut out for us these next 3 days while we wait for their passports.  Or at least I will!  Think BUSY Toddler, discovering everything for the first time, but taller, more powerful and strong.

Those of you who have kids with DS, I would love any advice you have on teaching your big, strong child to be gentle, soft, etc.  When she grabs things she shouldn't, she grabs hard and won't let go, then she laughs like it's a game until I finally get it out of her hand. Also, if I need her to change activities and I take her hand to redirect her, she immediately sits down right where she is and laughs.  Oy, yoy yoy.  Wish we could get it nipped in the bud before we get home. :)  Ha ha.

Thank HEAVENS for DVD's.  The minute we turned on Signing Times, they were both glued.

Ahhh.... deep breath.

PS, They loved having their piggies exposed. I don't think they got that luxury in the orphanage.




The first thing I did as she sat there was take out her braids. I've never seen her with her hair down. 
Is she dang gum cute, or what?

























Worth the wait, yes, indeed! All ten months.  She is a keeper. I love her soooo much.

Can't wait to bring her home.

28 comments:

  1. Oh Heather! I have such a huge smile on my face! What a beauty! BTW my girls LOVE to have their shoes and socks off, even in the car so get ready for that. Emma is 7 and is stubborn too, sitting down when we need to get going, "growling" LOL, so I think it is the age, not just the DS! How fitting that you broke Anya out on World Down Syndrome Day! At least she has a playmate and they can occupy themselves, and the DVD is KEY! Nina

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  2. Heather I forgot to tell you that I love the shirt! Very cool!
    Nina

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  3. I don't even know what to say. What an amazing journey, and a perfet ending/beginning in so many ways. I love that she was excited about everything she saw in the car. She has so many firsts ahead of her, and so do you! I hope some day to be in your shoes. Thanks for sharing your journey with all of us!

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  4. I am just sitting hear in tears. They are so precious sitting there together, rescued. What a wonderful day!
    P.S. No advice. Max doesn't do anything gently - haha. I have two therapists working on trying to stop his throwing habit. Everything is so deliberate. When he's done drinking, he throws his sippy cup, hard. When he's done with a toy, he chucks it against the wall, hard. He loves making a good crashing noise! Good luck :)
    Have a safe journey home! Can't wait to meet her!

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  5. I love her hair undone! She is BEAUTIFUL! But I am a biased Daddy and think all of my girls are gorgeous. Thanks for the pictures, they are holding me over till I can get there this weekend and hold you both!

    Nasvadanya!

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  6. So happy for you! She is gorgeous and "forever" has begun! Congratulations on your beautiful daughter!

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  7. What a ride! She is adorable and love the shirt. Anya is full of personality! Beautiful and precious:)

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  8. Crying Happy Tears. Thank you so much for sharing this journey with the world. I hope that it brings others to venture out of their comfort zone and do what they think is the impossible. I love the picture of Anya and her care giver. How blessed she was to have someone who loved her while she was there. What a bitter-sweet moment for the caregiver. I love reading the message from Proud Daddy too. Thanks again for sharing this most amazing day. It made my raining day a day of beautiful sunshine :)

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  9. I love the picture of the two of them watching Signing Time. Our 5-year-old with Down syndrome has a hard time being gentle. I try not to despair of ever being able to teach him to be gentle with things and people. If I remind him, he'll pet someone and say "soft." But it's hard to catch him before he's already been not-so-soft.

    We've found it pretty effective to teach him to give something to us, rather than trying to take it from him. We ask him nicely twice (giving him 10 seconds to respond each time) and if he doesn't comply, we impose a consequence (usually "time out". I know that's not usually recommended, but it has worked for us.) We've found he can learn compliance. He doesn't like time out.

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  10. This is what I've been waiting to see? Omuhgosh! I LOVE LOVE LOVE the picture of the two of them sitting there with those precious orange shirts on, watching TV - plucked out of orphanages and into the hearts of many - they are wonderful and beautiful and - orphans no more! Amazing job to you both Heather and Katrina and all involved that made this happen but most especially God, who led you there, to lead them home. This has made my week! Anya will keep you all young, she is a firecracker and I can't wait to see her at home, running around free, seeing and doing and expressing herself, just being a kid!! Much heartfelt congrads to both families!!

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  11. Oh Heather! We are so happy for you and Katrina!! They are so cute together. What an amazing day?! TWO babies were brought home. She is just precious, and they couldn't have better mamas :)

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  12. :)
    I absolutely adore her! She is so precious! Her hair, my, it's so GORGOEUS!!!!
    :)

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  13. soooo happy for you Heather!!!! Anya is gorgeous - love her little piggies and beautiful hair!!! What an amazing day! And now the adventures begin!!!

    I have found that you need to teach her what you WANT her to do, rather than what you DON'T! Soooo - if you want her to be gentle, repeat gentle hands over and over and OVER again ;) It takes LOTS and LOTS of repetition - even when you don't have a language barrier - so be ready to get a BIG lesson in patience :)

    I am just soooo overjoyed for you both!!!!
    Christie and Brady

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  14. I'm so, so happy that your day is finally here! Congratulations!

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  15. So very happy for you all! Thanks for the pictures.. I have a sweet one we are thinking of and your pictures and story may help a RH... my heart is so happy for these two precious kids!

    Blessings

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  16. Too emotional for advice right now. She is beautiful! She sounds so much like my busy bee Max. Many thanks to you and the Nines for paving the way for us to get to our Mollie. I love Gotcha Days! So many sweet memories and hopefully memories to make! Congratulations and God Bless!

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  17. so emotional reading all these updates! LOVE IT!!! that shirt is so cute!!! How fun that they have each other to play with for a few days and thank goodness for signing times!

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  18. Heather our family is beyond happy that this day has finally come for your family. So exciting reading about this and I can't wait to meet her. I was chuckling through a few parts-the pants-Em has never in her life worn jeans they just don't work. We stick to stretch pants, I found at Kohl's last fall some cute ones that look like jeans and I bought those in every color! The dropping to the floor-I call that the plop, just get used to that! Emma gets very strong at times as well(we had to keep her baby newborn sister on the kitchen counter in the carseat for protection!) We've worked with Mr. Max to help with that especially since anxiety and stress make it worse for Em. He's a therapist in AF-he actually works a lot with families who adopt children from other countries. I thought I'd mention him in case the stress and such of so many changes make it worse for Anya. He taught us different holds and techniques that helped a lot. I know that the real journey is just starting now that she is finally yours-but don't worry we'll all be here to help you through the best we can. You're going to have so much fun with her! Em just peaked over my shoulder and said-yay my friend. I see playdates coming up! Safe travels home!

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  19. AAAAAAAAAH! I am so happy for you!! Tears of joy, these pics are priceless and this is just SO great!! Hope the passports come without a hitch and you're back in the states fast. <3 HOW wonderful!! :)

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  20. Thanks again for posting Heather. She is beautiful and I love to see her personality coming out. Like a big fresh breath of air. So glad you can do this with a friend. He's so cute too. Congrats to you both.

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  21. Tears, tears, tears! I can't stop crying happy tears for you all. Thank you for posting this. It's so great to see it and try to put myself in your shoes. I can't wait! XOXO

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  22. She is just plain amazing, Heather! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with the rest of us. And yes, the hair down is so pretty, I can't believe how LONG it is!
    God bless you all!

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  23. She is BEAUTIFUL and a handful and it makes me smile to think of her spunk and how that was probably a HUGE positive in an orphanage setting!
    She is going to blossom with your love and care and guidance! CONGRATS!

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  24. Heather I not only have goosebumps all over but tears in my eyes as well, I can't tell you just how BEAUTIFUL she is, I love her with her hair open she is soooo gorgeous. I can't believe this day has come, wow wow wow and yes worth the wait. Now I have to go back and look at the pictures again. Enjoy her and just take in all in right now the rest will come.

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  25. I've read this over and over. So much to love and so much joy for you and your family. I have to say that I was tickled to realize that one of the pictures shows the same place that our own hoped for Little One has a picture taken of her. It just fills my heart. :)
    ~Amy

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  26. Congrats! She is so beautiful. I have loved following your journey. So happy Anya has found her forever family!
    With my four year old daughter I've found that you just have to do tons and tons of repetition and reminding. When I need her to let go of something and she isn't willing I hold her wrist and tell her firmly to let go. I hold my hand on her wrist until she lets go of the object. And as for transitioning from one activity to another I tell her I will count to 10 and then we will be all done. And then I slowly count. She needs the time to switch things over in her mind and know what is coming. Usually by the time I get to 8 or 9 she happily walks away from whatever it was and is happy to do whatever it is I need her to. The key is be consistent in whatever method you choose - be patient. Even without a language barrier I find that I have to repeat things a million times before I see any changes.

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  27. So excited for you guys and you are totally making me tear up here, and I'm totally reminiscing about our adoption.

    Anyway, regarding the behavior thing, I would stop her in her tracks, get down on her level and in her face, and tell her "nice" or sometimes with Nika I use "inappropriate" or "no no". As hard as it is especially right now, you are going to become the bad person in the authority role, but the time outs/whatever are necessary. Nika 100% tried to take the "I'm in charge" role and lots of orphans hate that authority over them. It is a work in progress, and Nika behaves for me differently than she does for others, because she knows her boundaries with me and still tries to push it with others. Oy. Have fun with that! LOL

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